With high school proms just around the corner, you may be interested in these articles and videos about prom dresses:
The talk that includes “’We stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things’—and in all prom dresses” is “Spiritual Power of Our Baptism” by Sister Carol B. Thomas in the April 1999 General Conference.
You may also enjoy reading the article “Modesty Reflects Discipleship, Commitment, Leaders Say.”
Until my girls wear garments some day, I don’t expect them to dress in garment-appropriate clothing. I don’t allow them to look like hussies but, really? Ugh- this hyper sensitivity to modesty is OUT OF CONTROL and I refuse to go along with it or allow my girls to be bullied into complying. I’d love to see as much talk about the really important issues facing teens as I do about modesty modesty modesty modesty modesty.
I think modesty is super important but it needs to be personal. I have a girl after having 3 boys (now teens) and we have had interesting and insightful discussions on modesty in our home. I live in Hawaii, where people aren’t judgmental, which I love. I agree, sometimes the way modesty get talked about can be negative. Its about the doctrine and not so much about the cultural/personal opinion of others.
@Lulu: Wow, are you serious? There is NOTHING out of control about having your daughter dress modestly. Also, you need to lead by example. You say you’d like to see more talk about the “really important” issues facing teens. I cannot think of a single more important issue than modesty, because frankly, modesty and the law of chastity go hand in hand! Your refusal to go along with the modesty standards the church gives to us does two things for your daughters. 1. It shows them that you question church leadership, and 2. That it’s ok NOT to follow the counsel given to us by the prophets. Two critically important things in these troubling times.
Here’s an article about LDS youth from 25 California wards who created their own “Mormon Prom.” It provided a positive atmosphere without the hugh expense of a traditional prom.
http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865578139/Youths-from-25-California-wards-attend-Mormon-Prom.html
I was raised in the church and not raised to dress modestly. As a result I did not have the self respect I should have had. I remember hearing a talk in mutual about how girls dress reflects how boys think about them. If you dress in a manner that reflects respect for your body than you are more likely to be treated with respect rather than being looked at as someone who will be easily talked into compromising your standards. I never thought about how the way I dressed was possibly putting bad thoughts into the minds of the boys I went to church with. No one ever old me why it was important to dress modestly and it always bothered me. When I got married and wore garments I had to throw out almost all of my clothes and it was hard. I am lucky to have found a husband who was able to see past my exterior and see who I really was and still wanted to take me to the temple. We now have 3 daughters that I refuse to allow to dress immodestly for the sake of fashion or because it is a lot of time to shop around. It is nt a decision I have ever in the slightest felt bullied into making. I will always follow the counsel of the general authorities because I honor and sustain them and I know that they will never lead us astray. I surely hope that all girls grow up respecting themselves and the beautiful bodies they are using.
I’m with lulu on the modesty obsession. I just learned about mormon prom today – apparently our kids went yesterday – and am reading around on line. My regular prom was great and clean but maybe things have gotten crazy in the last 20 years or maybe it’s jut another craze to stay away from mainstream.